Wives: Make Time For You

Slow down and breathe….let go of everything on your mind, everything burdening your heart and everything bogging down your time. Just stop for a moment and think of yourself.

 More than ever, wives are faced with the impossible task of doing it all. Being all. We are asked, if not expected, to have it all together, all the time, in all situations and circumstances.

I am here to say to you, wives of all ages, stop to make time for YOU. God’s purpose for you is not to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders - He has that covered for you.

“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” (Psalm 55:22, New International Version)

    Your purpose as a wife and caretaker can overshadow self-care, and it is easy to forget about yourself when you feel you need to take care of everyone and everything else. As wives and mothers, we can easily forget about ourselves as we try to take care of our family members, and even friends.

God has called us to be whole in every sense - mind, body soul.

    “…I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.” (Ephesians 4:1-6, NIV)

 MIND

 Your purpose as a wife can seem like it is too much to keep track of and it probably is. Our minds are to be cleared of the past days troubles and future worries - the only way to do that is to start fresh. 

 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:34, NIV)

 Pray that God will renew your mind each day to take on the daily facets of life. And let us not forget that we can empty our minds to our dear husband’s as well….even if it seems they are not fully listening. Letting it all out is sometimes the best medicine for us.    

Wives, our minds multitask with worry, excitement, to-do lists and constant distraction. Time to acknowledge the fact that we need a time out and let your husband know that you need to check out for an hour or two to clear your mind.

  BODY

This may seem like an obvious statement, but ladies…let’s take care of ourselves not only outwardly, but our inward-self as well. 

I am a huge proponent for NOT wearing makeup. You heard me right, no makeup Monday may become your best friend because honestly to feel good, sometimes we need to let go of the application and reapplication for a day. Seriously. Something so small can truly feel amazing. Be true to you and let others see you, even if that means they see the bags under your eyes from lack of sleep, the blemishes uncovered from stress and the flushed cheeks from exhaustion.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” (1 Peter 3:3-4, NIV)

Our bodies need rest. Simply ask your hubby to help out with some of the chores at home and some of the errands that need to be done. More than likely he will be willing to jump and help. 

There are a number of ways to reset your body whether it be yoga, a bubble bath, a nap or even sitting down long enough to paint your nails. Just do it in your own way and allow your hubby to take a portion of the load off, as you ask God to make you sit still long enough to allow your body the rejuvenation it needs.

SOUL

Recovering our souls is one of the easiest steps of finding purpose within ourselves, outside of the daily tasks we strain ourselves with. Prayer is the best way to achieve peace deep in your soul.

 “Look to the Lord and his strength; seek his face always.” (1 Chronicles 16:11, NIV)

 Do not be shy about requesting prayer either. Ask your husband to pray over you. When you are feeling overwhelmed by your purpose as a wife and caretaker, ask that he pray on your behalf for peace to enjoy your purpose in life in this season.

 Sit back and relax. With His help, you can feel refreshed in no time more often than not.

 “Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” (2 Corinthians 4:18, NIV)


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WomanhoodKayla Elder