Drama Among Christian Women
Have you ever had drama with another Christian woman? I am 99.9% sure that every woman reading this is nodding her head right now and thinking about that one Christian girl that gets under her skin. Drama is something that very much exists amongst Christian women.This issue poses the following two questions:
- Why does it happen?
- What are YOU supposed to do about it?
The first question is easy to answer. As Christian women, we have the ability to do something powerful when we stand united in sisterhood. Hence, the devil attacks sisterhood amongst Christian women. His attacks come in the form of jealousy, hatred, envy, criticism, judgment, and many others. The devil attacks the very things which he knows have power, one of which being sisterhood. As Christian women, we must fight that attack with love, which brings us to the next question.
What are YOU supposed to do about it?
What are you supposed to do when another Christian woman purposely goes out of her way to make you upset? What are you supposed to do when you find out another Christian woman is gossiping about you? This question is not as easy to answer as the first. However, there is an answer. You’re not going to like it. I know that because initially, I didn’t like it.
You are supposed to love her.
Ouch and ew all at the same time. Thanks a lot, flesh, and no, that is not the answer we wanted to hear Holy Spirit.
A couple of years ago I went through a season of months where I knew she-who-shall-not-be-named was going out of her way to make my life miserable. Every time I went to God about it all He said to me was, “Love her and pray for her.” The Bible also tells us we can confront a believer if they have wronged us (New King James Version, Matthew 18:15).
If you are experiencing drama with a Christian woman there are three things you can/should do:
- Love Her
- Pray For Her
- Confront Her From A Place of Love
It might feel impossible to love somebody who is treating you this way. The good news is that we are strong spiritual women who are not led by their emotions, amen? In faith, confess that you have grace and mercy towards her and thank God for letting you see her how He sees her. This basically ties into the second point of praying for her. As difficult as it might be, ask God to bless her. If you are at a place where you believe that you can approach her with love, grace, and mercy then it is a great idea to do so. God is a God of restoration; you never know what could result from it (a wonderful friendship?) If you want to approach her out of anger or bitterness, don’t do it, it will only make things worse.
We are called to live a life of peace. Romans 12:18 states, “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men” We cannot control everything that comes our way or even what others do, but we can control what we do and how we respond to things. Let us be like our heavenly Father, led by love, grace, and the Spirit in every situation.